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Soul/Stale Mate

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darkitysnark

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Antimony ruminates on the Lloyd Dobbler/Diane Court dichotomy of soul mating.

 

Snarky has to admit, should the world of couples fall into the strict either/or of Lloyd or Diane archetypes: she aspires to Dianeness (Dianeity?), but is most likely the Lloyd in her relationship with The Mister.

 

Sure, Snarky is the rightful egghead of the two. Her nerdiness and geekiness are such to elicit hybrid words like gnerd or possibly nee(k) (an homage to Monty Python, which adds a flavor of Dork to the mix as well).

 

Heck, she even started making notes in dictionaries (her own copies, of course), she was crushing on Diane that hard.

 

But her yearning for The Mister, even now almost six years into their marriage, is all Lloyd. She feels she needs to be a better woman to be with him. He makes her want to succeed at things she's barely even dreamed about. He didn't take her across the pond, but they did end up on the other side of the country to follow his career. (OK, and it was separate flights so no hand/breath holding, "waiting for the 'ding'" moment for the Snarks.) (Which seriously? Next to the "holding up the boombox" moment? One of Snarky's favorites.)

 

Currently The Mister has a slight advantage to Snarky on bread winning. Very slight. The care and feeding of the home fires is done jointly (though the laundry-and-dishes part of the kindling often gets neglected). Snarky has taken the reins of the check book and manages most of the financial matters of the house, though The Mister does his Annual Duty of Using His Accounting Degree Once a Year for Taxes.

 

All in all, Snarky has to say her relationship with The Mister falls into a more stereotypical, "traditional" one (man provide, woman manage)... with leanings toward scale-like equilibrium rather than yin-yang parity.

 

She is thinking about taking up kickboxing.

 

Today Snarky is nekkid! Well, in the ol factory sense anyway.

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valentina

That is so damn cool, your relationship with the Mister. Really, I find your post to be (and I don't use these words sarcastically, I really mean it!) sweet and touching. I think when people really love each other in a healthy manner, they are always open to changing, growing and morphing the the relationship based upon their mutual needs.

 

And congratualtions upon the approaching closing on the new little home with the wonderful dormer bedroom and the astonishing hobbit door!

 

It also looks like the kind of house that could have an adorable little clothesline in the back where darkity could hang her frilly panties!

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Oh man, I am so far into scary-brain territory, It's scary. Last night at dinner, I was so wrapped up in what I was studying, Rusty got treated to a long explanation of the purpose and execution of maximum likelihood parameter estimation. His response: "I recognized all of the individual words you used, but I don't really get what they mean when you put them all together like that." Poor guy, he puts up with some strange dinnertable conversation.

 

Seriously, though, compared to actuaries, even *accountants* look like wild and crazy people.

 

He came with me to St. Louis to follow my career. Though we also moved a few weeks apart, so no hand-holding on the airplane here either. I make more than he does, and since I don't see a 2nd tech boom on the horizon, I probably always will.

 

Though our housekeeping often falls behind too, it's totally him that makes our house into a home.

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darkitysnark

It also looks like the kind of house that could have an adorable little clothesline in the back where darkity could hang her frilly panties!

 

Now that's a compelling mental image! More incentive for Snarky to get said frilly underthings.

 

His response: "I recognized all of the individual words you used, but I don't really get what they mean when you put them all together like that." Poor guy, he puts up with some strange dinnertable conversation.

 

The Mister often makes the "... in English, please" request of Snarky, though she is having a similar reaction to Antimony's seemingly related string of words.

 

Snarky finds comfort in knowing that there are men out there that allow the giant egghead women in their lives to go to the scary brain places.

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